Hard to Handle
The Black Crows – Hard To Handle
Bobby (and to a lesser extent his beloved) and I have enjoyed an off-and-on love hate relationship.
One minute we are loving, cuddling and like lovers.
The next they are spewing toxic hostility (to be fair, mostly JKW) and I respond with corresponding force.
If you need specifics scroll back.
Linda Lee asked me to tone down the hostility. I never saw it as such, but I can see how questioning a person with Bobby’s record can bring one into the cross hairs.
There is no pleasure in criticizing for its own sake. And when one calls into question words of Bobby Wolff, JKW, or the actions (perhaps inactions) of Alan Sontag and Peter Weichsel – there will be return fire. Fair enough.
I got hate mail and love mail, thankfully much more of the latter. The episode with ERM swindling Stoney and gloating about it was a poster child for our rapport. Judy was incensed, the readers laughed and Bobby played it down the middle as he had to. What many of us thought was funny, one took offence and that is OK.
And I confess I like to stir the pot. I don’t see too many others doing it. Sometimes someone needs to step out and say – this is wrong. I have no idea how I somehow fell into the role – as one of my friends called it – “you are the cheating guru.” That is not a role I seek or want. No thx.
As as for “flogging a dead horse” (JKW’s words about Norfolk) well….
I do not apologize.
There is no statute of limitations on doing the right thing.
Zeke and company were swindled by self-confessed cheaters aided and abetted by the League. They are certainly Collateral Damage. But hey- so what if the cheaters confessed, the aggrieved filed a timely appeal, (never heard) – well too bad. That doesn’t sit well with me, but THAT IS THE WAY IT IS. it doesn’t mean I have to like or accept it, but that is the way this will apparently play out. Cheaters win.
I guess Bob Hamman was right all along – “it is a great story but if you imagine some scoring change will ensue then you are mistaken.”
Bobby had the courtesy to become engaged, sharing his perspective, insight and experience. Precious few of said rank did the same. Many commented in private, but Bobby was out there on the record. And as Martha says – “that’s a good thing.” I want to thank him for that.
Bobby and I have made peace. We have agreed to disagree and have extended the olive branch to one another. That does not mean we are best friends, or happily ever after – it does mean we have agreed to a mutual respect for each other’s opinion and we or at least he 🙂 will tone down the volume.
And although I remain (in a few minds) “despicable” or (gotta love this) “can’t shine Stoney’s shoes” that criticism comes with the territory. If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. I loved that Stoney shoes line (JKW) and I confess the verbiage never bothered me, in fact I loved it. Great line.
And before I depart, I ask Alan Sontag and Peter Weichsel – why can’t you do the right thing? You are superstars in our game. You should lead the way by positive example. If only Kantar or Rosenberg or Alder had asked….would you stand fast? Give it up. You owe us, I take that back – you owe the game more and you certainly don’t need (or want) to win with cheaters at the other table. Or is that OK? I guess so. So it would appear from the cheap seats. You should be ashamed of yourselves clinging to an unlawfully won titile as if it was your God given right. There is no “right” to win with cheaters. You did not earn or merit the Norfolk title – but hell-go ahead – keep it. That is your choice, so be it. It pales in comparison to all your other fabulous achievements and sadly tarnishes that otherwise unblemished record.
So you tell us – why? You won’t and you can’t because there is NO viable reason for doing so. Winning alongside cheaters? Apparently that is your legacy. Say it ain’t so.
Truth be told, I am going through divorce, about to be fleeced. I have a couple of children’s/teachers’ and bridge books I want to publish. Too much on my plate and bridge blogging will have to take a back seat. I am too seasoned to say never again but it will not be the priority it once was.
So if you are a woman bridge player, hot, loaded, intellectual and with other tangilbe virtues (like children) and a love for Canada’s horrible weather please feel free to email me in privately at:
As for blogging let’s just kiss and say goodbye.